Is Masturbation Okay? . . . and Other Thorny Questions

The Mudroom is excited to be joining the likes of The Rumpus, the Chicago Tribune, and the Washington Post. We’re starting our very own advice column, “Dear Portia.”

Every month, we’ll cover questions related to our monthly theme. First up is sex, sexuality, and singleness.

Do you have questions about your sex life, about singleness, about how your sexual orientation affects your faith? Do you wonder why you’re anxious about sex, or if your libido is too high?

Our columnist, Heather Caliri, will choose from your questions to create the column.

You can help by sending her your thorny life problems.

Or, submit a question for an upcoming theme (we’ve included some ideas to get you thinking):

April: Spiritual Formation, Sacred Rhythms, Liturgy (Why does the Bible make me anxious? How often should I pray? I hate my spiritual disciplines, but I don’t know what else to try. How do I get my kid to like church?)

May: Mental Illness, Awareness, Stigma (How do I tell my significant other I’m bipolar? Is taking medication for depression okay for Christians? How do I help my kid avoid the anxiety that runs through our family?)

June: Books, Reading, Words (I want to write, but I don’t know how to start. Why don’t I read as much as I want to? I realized I don’t like the way I speak to my husband. How do I change?)

August: Healing, Wellness, Soul-Care (Why can’t I get over my mom’s death? Why am I so anxious all the time? How do I learn how to be less busy?)

September: Church, Fellowship, Faith (Why do I feel so alienated in my small group? I hate sermons. Is there something wrong with me? I can’t find a church I like . . . help!)

October: Parenting, Childhood, Family (I thought I’d love staying home with my baby, but I’m going crazy. My mother keeps buying me stuff I don’t need—what do I tell her? My daughter’s pregnant. What should I do next?)

November: Dwell, Mystery, Paradox (Is my theology totally messed up? I have trouble believing all the stories in the Bible. I hate my house, but I can’t afford to move. Help!)

December: Waiting, Longing, Desire (How can I make my family’s Christmas meaningful? I’m struggling with infertility. How do I keep hope alive?)

Together, we can consider some hard questions and learn how to find our own rudders.

You can email Heather your questions here: We look forward to hearing from you!

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