Lessons from My Best Friend Leaving

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Today my best friend left. She loaded her things into her SUV and began a 25-hour journey away to join her soon-to-be husband in Colorado. We’ve been close friends for about three years, feeling like the only grown single women in our small town. Together we’ve weathered the storms of shared tears and laughter about the day-to-day stories of life. We’ve laughed about boys, walked through break ups and edited each other’s online dating profiles. We’ve dreamed of this day, when the life she’s been waiting for will start.

As I told her goodbye today, I could barely hold the tears back when I told her how thankful I was to have been witness to the outrageous way God orchestrated her story. Each detail was so intricately woven that there could be no doubt as to the creative mastermind behind it all.

My call to bravery may look different, but it will be no less scary and challenging.

For the rest of the day I’ve struggled to hold back the tears. I am deeply touched by the bravery in my friend’s heart to pursue a new chapter even when it appeared foolish to the untrained eye. She’s dreamed her whole life of being a wife and mother. Now, as a thirty-something, that dream is finally becoming a reality.

It was only when my friend was fully willing to take a wild step and give her whole life to the pursuit of her heart’s deepest desire that it came. A couple of months before she met the one, we had a conversation about packing up and moving somewhere new. In this conversation she wistfully said she could see herself living in Colorado. Neither of us knew just how prophetic that statement would be.

As she is making the long journey to her new home, it leaves me thinking about my own life. As I hugged my friend today I knew, more clearly than I knew before, that in the same way, intricately woven details are being created in my own life. It made me wonder if my aversion to risk taking is preventing me from finding something wonderful or fully seeing the pattern of beauty and creation in my own life.

Watching her drive away and willingly take a brave, crazy step challenged me to consider that perhaps we are all called to take similar jumps. My call to bravery may look different, but it will be no less scary and challenging, and I wonder if the greatest reward comes when we take the biggest and craziest risks.

 

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8 thoughts on “Lessons from My Best Friend Leaving

  1. Great blog, Sarah. She has indeed been brave to pull up all her roots and move across the country. I don’t think a day goes by when I wish there was some magical door that opened up in South Carolina where she could come hang out with you, her sister, other friends and family any time she wanted. Thank you for being the friend to her you have over these years and I promise to always take care of her! 🙂

  2. So very true, that our “jumps” may all look very different — sometimes “jumping” is just staying put — but that they’re “jumps” nonetheless. I wish you the best on your own journey, Sarah, wherever that leads.

    • You are so right, Ashley! Jumps are scary regardless of whether they are coming or going or staying all together.

  3. Sarah, I have been both the one leaving and the one being left MANY times and it can leave you feeling nothing but loss. I’m glad you were able to turn it into a life question that spurred you forward. Thanks for this encouragement to take risk. I especially liked this: “It made me wonder if my aversion to risk taking is preventing me from finding something wonderful or fully seeing the pattern of beauty and creation in my own life.”

  4. These words: “take a wild step and give her whole life to the pursuit of her heart’s deepest desire.” Yes. So much yes. May we all see the wisdom of taking the wild steps we fear in this life. Hope your heart heals while your friend is far in distance, but not in heart.

  5. Being brave takes such different shapes for each of us! Brave is actually one of my two words for this year! For me, it’s being brave in my writing, and sharing truth with those around me.

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