Crouched in that corner of the closet you’ve made your own,
so you can steal one more moment before
you have to hold up half of the sky again . . .
Before you flip the nebulizer’s switch and pray your lungs cooperate this time—so you can tuck your boys in tonight.
Before you tiptoe toward his hospital bed that, three years ago, migrated to your living room—so you can trim his beard while he sleeps.
Before you pull on heavy boots to clear heavy snow that’s somehow heavier—now that he’s left for good. . . .*
In these few and fleeting moments between appointments made, paychecks earned, groceries gathered, kids acquired-deposited, and the steady stream of prayers prompted by prodigals, prognoses, settlements, and unsettledness . . . .
Before you finger the Gordian knot that is today—
the one that gets tighter the harder you pull;
the one that may unravel you first.
Before all that, sister, I beg you to lay it down here,
just for a while . . .
like Lisha did.
Her name’s not in the Bible or any epic novel. But Lisha’s a heroine in my book, because she taught me how to lay down my load.
There are no wild plot twists in this story, or sweeping redemption arcs: Just a portage, with canoes and cargo from one Boundary Waters lake to another. The quarter-mile haul felt more like a million with the giant rubber duffels strapped to our backs. My complaints dripped like a leaky faucet as we scaled that craggy path of pain. Nothing came from Lisha’s lips while she labored under the taunting, August sun. Nothing, but the inhale-exhale rhythms of labored breathing.
Her pack was heavier by far.
As we stumbled to the water’s edge, she planted herself on an obliging rock, pried the duffel from her sweaty back, and mumbled two of the wisest words I’ve ever heard:
“That sucked,” she breathed, in just a whisper.
No curses. No comparisons or complaints.
Only that and nothing more.
Sister, as you sit in that closet corner, cradling your head in your hands—
as you lower the load strapped to your back, maybe you need to say it, too.
This sucks. This really, really sucks.
Say it because it’s true. Say it because speaking the pain won’t make it vanish,
but it will let you lay it down for a while—
like Jesus did,
as he lied prostrate in the garden,
begging the Father for his cup of crucifixion to pass.
It was all too much, so Jesus summoned his closest friends to keep watch in the pain. As beads of blood seeped through his skin, and his soul buckled under the death-weight of sorrow (Matthew 26:38), they slept, instead.
Sister, your Father bends near to hear you say it, too: That this cup you must drink is a bitter and agonizing one. He hears and he knows, and I promise you that He provides in the pain.
Maybe not always in the ways we’d prefer.
Maybe not by taking it—even as Jesus pleaded—away.
But let me remind you that you’re not an only child, and this is by design. (Galatians 6:2/Romans 12:12,15). So, when you’re ready—crack open that closet door. Open it to the ones who will not be lulled to sleep in your pain, but will sit with you in it, keep watch, and pray. Brené Brown once said,[perfectpullquote align=”full” bordertop=”false” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]“I went to church thinking it would be like an epidural, that it would take the pain away . . . But church isn’t like an epidural; it’s like a midwife . . . “1[/perfectpullquote]
Sister, you must drink from this cup, it’s true. But you don’t have to drink alone. Find your midwives. Find the ones who want to be in your corner, push those skeletons and that pile of dirty laundry aside (they have theirs too) and make room for them—
like I did, reluctantly,
sitting on a worn and wooden pew in that empty, village church. I felt empty, too—exhausted from the load I could barely carry. Desperate, I thumbed through a Swiss-German hymnal whose words and melodies were as foreign to me as the rest I sought. Peace thwarted me once again with one more incomprehensible thing. As I stared through stained glass that spoke of a cup, a suffering Savior, and his sleeping friends, my own friend slipped into the pew. We sat in befuddled silence, among stones set 500 years before. Five hundred years of whispered prayers, I marveled.
Five hundred years, without Him missing a single one.
“I am with her,” He spoke in silence to the source of my pain.
Not “I’ll fix it,” or even “wait.” Just His promised presence that made what He whispered next possible: “Do not be afraid.”
Organ music spilled through pipes above, blanketing us below with an unfamiliar song we somehow knew.
It was a song of goodness—God’s goodness—to a world weighed down with insurmountable things.
Listen hard enough, sister, and you will hear it too:
In a baby’s coo,
or in the wind spilling through a cottonwood tree with the sound of a river,
or in a teenager’s giggle, when they forget—momentarily—that they are a teenager,
or in the “I’m here for it” whispered by the one who sits in your corner.
Listen, like David did —
to the quiet waters, literally translated “waters of rest”: God’s soul-restoring goodness in the darkest of valleys.
Crouched in that corner of the closet you’ve made your own
before you have to hold up half of the sky again . . .
Lay it down for a moment.
Lean in to the ones who sit beside you.
Listen to the songs of His goodness.
And, when it’s time to rise up and shoulder it all again,
look past your load—beyond what you can see, to what is not—
the eternal weight of glory that’s waiting for you.
Cheering you on from my own closet corner,
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
II Corinthians 4:16-18
*My beloved, load-lifting sisters. You know who you are.
1 As quoted by Rachel Held Evans in her book, Searching for Sunday: Loving, Leaving, and Finding the Church.
Header photo image: Jason Blackeye on Unsplash.
Canoe photo image: Michael Niessl on Unsplash.
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10 thoughts on “For the Heavy Lifters”
That was absolutely beautiful! Thank you for the invitation to lay it all down. I’ve gotten used to carrying my burdens on my own.
Glad you remembered you don’t have to, friend. I’m in your corner – thanks be to God.
So lovely, Nichole. What great images and reminders.
Linda – your words are a gift – in so many ways. Grateful for them and for you!
Wonderful reminder of what life can look like and how to lay it down which is a hard thing for a lot of us to do. I do want to sit in a closet alone and just be. Close my eyes and feel the presence of Jesus.
Nicole Walters and Amanda Taylor are my daughters.
Dear Mrs. Tingle – Yes! Thank you for reminding me that Jesus, too, sits with us there. May you know and feel his presence every day as you lay down your load. Nicole and Amanda are two of the loveliest humans on the planet. That’s a beautiful legacy! Keep on!
Beautiful, Nichole. Thank you.
Judy – I’m so grateful for your time here. May you know his presence and see his goodness today.
Nichole, I rarely sit and read a whole article in this busy season with kids and work. It’s a shame when I also create content. But today you drew me in and I couldn’t stop reading. Your words were exactly what I needed and continue to need. Thank you for writing.
Chavon – We’re grateful that you stopped by here! Lord Jesus, may Chavon know your nearness in the peaks and valleys of faith, motherhood, and the creative life. Please bless the work of her hands and heart – and give her glimpses of your glory all along the way!
Cheering you on, sister!